Posts in In Love
The Standard Relationship Model and Me—I'd Rather Be Alone

So, in the end, I’m alone. Although I have no intimate relationships with anybody at the moment, I find that I don’t particularly miss that. I’d rather be alone than settle for less than what I feel that I deserve...

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The Tranquil King

I gently removed something from his black hair and studied his handsome face carefully. He was no longer the boy I was sweet on. He was now the well-read and intelligent young man I spent a decade loving with ease...

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The Art of Seduction: TCK Male Chronicles

For the sake of science, and the greater cause of humanity, one TCK-male set off on an empirical journey to discover the romantic intricacies of women, worldwide. On his quest into unchartered territories (well, not completely unchartered, but how many can claim a voyage to woo the world?), he propositioned females from different countries... 

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My Big Fat Indonesian Nikkah

I grew up with the naive idea that there was only one way to get married – someone special asks you whether you want to get married to them, you say yes, you are engaged and then you have a wedding sometime in the near future. What happened in reality was a bit different.

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Rewiring TCK Relationships

For many years, I felt relationships were momentary, and the TCK call to chart new territories meant romantic relationships ended with national boundaries. This left me feeling hollow, with a gaping lack of fulfilment...

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All Is Fair In Love And War

One ‘wedding success’ metric - and an indicator of societal-actualization - is how many events you can throw. Rather than having a single event (fewer events would require fewer hours of mental strain – which reach levels akin to that of interrogation methods utilized by intelligentsia), you have events in multiples of 3 or 4...

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The Dynamics of Coupling in Tokyo

Japanese women maybe have had about 50 years to figure out what an ugly foreigner looks like, so when you see a gorgeous, local woman with an almost repugnant non-Japanese man, you have to stifle the urge to alter your line of vision down to his goods.

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Global Love

I distinctly remember feeling inspired by the idea of the young, reckless love depicted in the movie, which was swiftly followed by utter mortification at the scenes showing physical intimacy. I was a product of a Pakistani, Muslim household, and any form of physical contact with the opposite sex was severely frowned upon.

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Love, Porn and knowing the difference

Before I was to be slowly torn down by my relationship with August, I had newly discovered my TCK identity and was sure he was the missing piece of who I was. I was living in an amazing share house with maybe 8 or 9 different nationalities rotating through it at any one time – and amongst these students, professionals and travellers alike – I was happy that I had finally found my people…

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